24/09/2026

 

School Holidays: Helping Young People Stay Away from Illicit Drugs and Harmful Influences

By Don’t Mess With Drugs (DMWD) Foundation

School holidays should be a time for young people to relax, spend time with friends and family, play sport, travel and enjoy a break from school.

But holidays can also mean something else: more freedom, less routine, more parties and longer periods of unsupervised time.

That does not mean school holidays automatically lead to drug use. There is no strong evidence that simply being on school holidays causes a young person to experiment with illicit drugs. What research does show, however, is that some of the circumstances that can become more common during holidays — particularly unstructured time with peers, exposure to friends who use drugs and reduced parental awareness of where teenagers are — are associated with an increased risk of substance use.

For families, the answer is not to lock teenagers inside the house or assume every new friend is a bad influence. It is to stay involved, informed and connected.

The Reality of Illicit Drug Use Among Australian Teenagers

It is important not to exaggerate youth drug use.

According to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare’s National Drug Strategy Household Survey 2022–2023, 13.3% of Australians aged 14–17 reported using an illicit drug during the previous 12 months. Lifetime illicit drug use among this age group was 18.8%.

In other words, most Australian teenagers are not using illicit drugs.

That is an important message for young people to hear.

Teenagers can sometimes believe that “everyone is doing it”, particularly when social media, parties or certain friendship groups create that impression. The national statistics tell a different story.

At the same time, the risks should not be dismissed. Cannabis remains the most commonly used illicit drug among Australian teenagers, and AIHW data found that among 14–17-year-olds who had recently used cannabis, this age group had comparatively high proportions classified as engaging in moderate- or high-risk use.

Prevention therefore still matters.

Why School Holidays Can Create More Opportunities for Risk

During the school term, teenagers usually have a fairly predictable structure: school, homework, sport, activities, family commitments and regular sleeping patterns.

During holidays, some of that structure disappears.

A young person might spend an entire day or evening with friends without adults nearby. There may be parties, sleepovers, festivals or gatherings involving people they do not know well. Older teenagers may also mix with older friendship groups.

Research has repeatedly associated unstructured socialising with peers with higher levels of adolescent substance use. One study found that young people spending unsupervised time with peers reported higher substance use and greater susceptibility to peer pressure than young people spending their time with adults or in organised activities.

This does not mean teenagers should never be trusted or allowed independence.

Independence is part of growing up.

The goal is to combine independence with sensible boundaries.

Know Where They Are — Without Turning It Into Surveillance

One of the strongest findings across youth substance-use research is the importance of parental knowledge and monitoring.

A 2024 study involving more than 4,500 teenagers aged 11–15 found evidence that parental monitoring can actually prevent opportunities for substance use from becoming substance use. Teenagers reported situations where they had considered or had an opportunity to use substances but did not because their parents might find out or intervened in the situation.

Australian research tells a similar story.

A study involving almost 10,000 Victorian secondary students found that having peers who used drugs was strongly associated with adolescent polysubstance use. Parental monitoring, school commitment and clear parental disapproval of drug use were associated with a lower likelihood of polysubstance use.

During the holidays, parents and carers should know basic information such as:

• Where is my teenager going?
• Who are they going with?
• Who will be there?
• Are adults present?
• When will they be home?
• How are they getting home?
• What will they do if the situation becomes unsafe?

This is not about interrogating teenagers. It is responsible parenting.

Talk Before the Party — Not After Something Goes Wrong

Conversations about drugs are most effective when they happen before a young person is standing in a situation where somebody is offering them something.

The Alcohol and Drug Foundation recommends ongoing, relaxed conversations rather than relying on one major “drug talk”. Parents are encouraged to listen, ask what their teenager thinks, provide accurate information, establish clear expectations and help young people plan how they would respond to pressure.

Try asking questions rather than delivering a lecture:

“What would you do if someone offered you something at a party?”

“What if your friends started using something and you didn’t want to?”

“Could you call me if you needed to get out of there?”

These conversations allow teenagers to think through situations before they happen.

Give Them an Exit Plan

One of the simplest things a parent can say is:

“If you ever feel unsafe, call me. I will come and get you.”

Fear of punishment can sometimes make a teenager remain in a dangerous situation rather than asking an adult for help.

Families can even create a simple code word or text message that means, “Come and get me.”

The Alcohol and Drug Foundation specifically recommends giving teenagers a safe way to contact parents if a party or gathering becomes uncomfortable and planning transport before the young person goes out.

A teenager who knows there is a reliable way home has another option besides simply following the group.

Be Careful With the Idea of the “Wrong Crowd”

Parents often tell teenagers to stay away from the “wrong people”.

The intention may be good, but labelling another teenager as a “bad kid” can backfire.

It is more useful to talk about behaviour and situations.

A friend who pressures someone to take drugs, get into a car with an intoxicated driver, hide their whereabouts from their parents or participate in dangerous behaviour is putting them at risk.

Teach young people to recognise the behaviour rather than judging someone’s background, appearance or reputation.

Real friendship does not require someone to prove themselves by doing something dangerous.

Keep the Holidays Full — But Not Controlled

Young people also need something meaningful to do.

Sport, gym sessions, casual work, volunteering, family outings, hobbies, gaming with friends, camping, holiday programs or simply organised social activities can provide structure without making the holidays feel like another school timetable.

Research has linked constructive leisure activities and parental involvement with positive adolescent development and lower levels of substance use.

Parents do not need to schedule every hour.

The objective is to avoid weeks where every day becomes:

Wake up late → nothing planned → meet whoever is available → stay out late → repeat.

A little structure can make a significant difference.

Parents Still Matter — Even When Teenagers Pretend They Don’t

Teenagers naturally become more independent, and their friends become increasingly important.

That does not mean parents become irrelevant.

Research has consistently found associations between supportive parent–child relationships, parental monitoring and lower adolescent substance use. Poorer parent–youth relationships and lower parental monitoring have also been associated with earlier initiation of alcohol and cannabis use.

That means prevention is not only about saying:

“Don’t take drugs.”

It is also about maintaining the kind of relationship where your child will tell you what is actually happening in their life.

Listen.

Stay involved.

Know their friends.

Set boundaries.

Ask questions.

And make sure they know that coming to you for help is always an option.

For Young People: You Don’t Have to Follow the Group

School holidays should create memories — not consequences that follow you long after the holidays have finished.

You do not have to use a drug because someone else is using it.

You do not have to accept something because a friend hands it to you.

You do not have to stay somewhere because leaving might look “uncool”.

And you do not need to prove yourself to anybody by taking a substance you do not want.

The majority of Australian teenagers are not using illicit drugs. Choosing not to use drugs does not make you the unusual one.

The strongest decision can sometimes be a very simple one:

No. I’m not interested.

Then walk away.

If Something Goes Wrong, Get Help

Prevention should always be the priority, but protecting someone’s life comes first.

If a young person becomes unconscious, has difficulty breathing, experiences a seizure, has severe chest pain, becomes dangerously confused or agitated, or appears seriously unwell after taking an unknown substance, call Triple Zero (000).

Do not avoid seeking emergency assistance because you are worried about embarrassment or getting somebody into trouble.

For confidential information and support relating to alcohol or other drugs, Australians can contact the National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline on 1800 250 015. The service connects callers with relevant alcohol and drug services in their state or territory.

Young people can also contact Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800, available 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

Prevention Starts Before the Decision

At Don’t Mess With Drugs (DMWD) Foundation, our focus is on prevention, education and helping young people make informed decisions before drugs have an opportunity to damage their health, relationships, education or future.

DMWD’s work has a particular focus on young people, including students and young sportspeople, and promotes education as an important part of preventing drug misuse and abuse.

School holidays should be something young people look forward to.

Parents cannot remove every risk their children will encounter, and teenagers cannot control every situation around them.

But families can reduce risk.

Stay connected. Know the plan. Talk openly. Set boundaries. Choose your friends carefully. Have an exit strategy. And remember that saying no is always an option.

Enjoy the school holidays.

Stay safe.

Be Good. Do Good. Don’t Mess With Drugs.

Don’t Mess With Drugs (DMWD) Foundation
www.dmwd.com.au

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Sources and further reading

Australian Institute of Health and Welfare — National Drug Strategy Household Survey 2022–2023: Young people’s use of alcohol, tobacco, e-cigarettes and other drugs.

Australian Government Department of Health, Disability and Ageing — Australian Secondary School Students’ Use of Alcohol and Other Substances 2022–2023. More than 10,000 Australian students aged 12–17 participated in the national survey.

Alcohol and Drug Foundation — resources for parents and carers on talking with teenagers about alcohol and other drugs and safer partying.

Pelham W.E. et al. (2024) — How Does Parental Monitoring Reduce Adolescent Substance Use? Journal of Studies on Alcohol and Drugs.

Peer drug use and adolescent polysubstance use research involving 9,966 Victorian secondary-school students.

Australian Government — National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline, 1800 250 015.

 

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21/08/26

Talking With Your Children About Illicit Drugs: What Actually Works

A practical, evidence-informed guide for Australian parents and carers. Published by the Don’t Mess With Drugs (DMWD) Program — dmwd.com.au

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Why this conversation matters more than you think

Most parents dread the drug conversation. They worry they’ll say the wrong thing, plant an idea, sound like a hypocrite, or trigger a fight that slams the door shut for good.

Here’s the reassuring part: the research consistently shows that parents remain one of the strongest protective influences in a young person’s life — stronger, in many cases, than peers or advertising. Studies tracking adolescents over time have found that the quality of the parent–child relationship and the level of parental knowledge about where a young person is and who they’re with are among the most reliable predictors of whether, and when, that young person starts using alcohol or other drugs. Some longitudinal research suggests this is not just a correlation but a genuine causal protective effect during early-to-mid adolescence.

Silence, by contrast, doesn’t keep children safe. It just means someone else — a group chat, a video platform, a mate at a party — becomes the primary source of information.

The Australian picture

It helps to start with facts rather than fear. According to the Australian Institute of Health and Welfare’s National Drug Strategy Household Survey 2022–2023:

• Around 13.3% of Australians aged 14–17 had used an illicit drug in the previous 12 months — roughly 200,000 young people. That’s a minority, not a majority.
• Cannabis is the most commonly used illicit drug in this age group, followed by inhalants and pharmaceuticals used for non-medical purposes (including pharmaceutical stimulants). Parents often focus on drugs that are, statistically, far less likely to appear.
• Teenage smoking has fallen dramatically over the past two decades, and young people are starting to drink later than previous generations.
• However, among 14–17-year-olds who did use cannabis, a higher proportion scored in the moderate- and high-risk categories than any other age group — around 1 in 4 at moderate risk and roughly 1 in 8 at high risk.

The takeaway for parents: most teenagers are not using illicit drugs, but the smaller group who do are using in riskier ways. The goal of the conversation isn’t to win an argument about statistics — it’s to delay first use, reduce harm, and keep the lines open.

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What the evidence says doesn’t work

Before covering what to do, it’s worth naming the approaches that decades of research have found ineffective — or actively counterproductive.

1. Scare tactics and shock imagery. Australian and international reviews of drug education are unusually consistent on this point. The NSW Department of Education’s principles of drug education state plainly that scare tactics, moralistic messages and one-off anecdotal approaches are ineffective for lasting behavioural change and can increase experimentation. The evaluation of the Montana Meth Project in the United States — the model for several “confronting” campaigns — found no positive outcomes, and instead recorded an increase in the acceptability of methamphetamine and a decrease in perceived danger among students exposed to it.

Why does fear backfire? Adolescents tend to believe in their own invulnerability (“that won’t happen to me”), and when the extreme outcomes they’re shown don’t match what they observe in their own lives, they discount the entire message — including the accurate parts.

2. Exaggerating the risks. If a young person is told cannabis will inevitably destroy their life, and then sees a friend use it with no visible consequence, your credibility is gone — and with it, your influence on the far riskier decisions still to come.

3. The one-off “big talk”. A single serious sit-down conversation at age 14 is not a strategy. Short, repeated, low-stakes conversations across many years are far more effective.

4. Lectures. Talking at a teenager reliably produces nodding, silence, and nothing else.

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What the evidence says does work

Start early, and go little and often

Prevention research strongly favours starting before exposure, not after. That doesn’t mean discussing pill testing with a seven-year-old — it means age-appropriate groundwork: medicines are only taken from a trusted adult, our bodies are ours, we can always tell you anything.

By late primary school, most children have already encountered vaping, alcohol and drug references online. By then, the conversation should already be normal in your household.

Be accurate, be specific, don’t moralise

Positive Choices — the national evidence-based drug education portal developed by researchers, teachers and parents through the Matilda Centre at the University of Sydney and NDARC at UNSW — recommends preparing before you talk: know the facts, be ready to dispel myths, and discuss harms realistically without exaggerating.

Accuracy earns you the right to be believed. “Cannabis affects a developing brain, and starting young is linked to bigger problems later” is credible. “One joint and you’re an addict” is not.

Ask more than you tell

The most useful opening is usually a question, not a statement:

• “Has vaping or anything like that turned up at your school?”
• “What do people your age actually think about it?”
• “If someone at a party offered you something, what do you reckon you’d do?”

Asking what other people do is far less confronting than asking what they do, and it usually tells you more.

Use teachable moments

A storyline in a show, a song lyric, a news item, a scene in a film, a festival on TV — these are the easiest and least awkward entry points. Thirty seconds in the car is a real conversation. It doesn’t need a whiteboard.

Be clear about your expectations

Young people who understand that their parents genuinely disapprove of drug use are less likely to use. State your position once, plainly, without a lecture: “I don’t want you using illegal drugs. My main reason is your safety, and your brain is still developing. I’m telling you because I love you, not to control you.”

Then say the second, equally important part: “And if you ever get into trouble, I want you to call me. You will not be in more trouble for calling.”

Stay warm and stay informed

The research on “parental monitoring” is often misread as a licence to surveil. It isn’t. What protects young people is parental knowledge — knowing where they are, who they’re with, and when they’ll be home — built on a relationship in which they’re willing to tell you. Monitoring without warmth produces better concealment, not better behaviour.

Model what you’re asking for

Children notice how the adults around them handle alcohol, medications and stress. Consistency between your message and your behaviour carries more weight than any speech.

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“Did you ever take drugs?”

Almost every parent gets asked this, and it’s the question people most fear.

Positive Choices makes a useful point here: you are not obliged to disclose your own history, good or bad. A war story can glamorise; a denial can be caught out later and cost you credibility.

Reasonable responses include:

• “I’m not going to make this about me — what I care about is you, and what I know now that I didn’t know then.”
• “People my age didn’t have great information. You do. That’s the difference.”
• If you do choose to share something, keep it brief, honest and focused on consequences rather than adventure.

Whatever you say, avoid the two extremes: heroic anecdote, or an implausible flat denial.

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Talking at different ages

Ages 5–8 — Simple safety framing. Medicines help us when a trusted adult gives the right amount; some things aren’t safe to put in our bodies. Build the habit of telling you things.

Ages 9–12 — This is the window that matters most and is most often missed. Children are already seeing content online. Talk about vaping, alcohol and cannabis in factual terms, discuss why some people use substances, and rehearse simple refusal lines that don’t cost social status (“nah, I’m right”, “my parents would kill me”).

Ages 13–15 — Shift from telling to discussing. Explore peer pressure, social media portrayals, consent, and what to do if a friend is unwell. Set clear rules and clear, proportionate consequences. Agree a safety plan (below).

Ages 16–18 — Treat them as near-adults making real decisions. Cover legal consequences, driving, mixing substances, unknown pill contents, festival and party safety, and what to do in an overdose situation — including that Australian ambulance services attend to help, not to prosecute. Keep the door open even when you disagree.

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Build a safety plan before you need one

Every family should have three things agreed in advance:

1. A no-questions-tonight rescue rule. They can call or text you at any hour for a lift, from anywhere, and the consequences conversation happens tomorrow, calmly — not in the car at 2 am.
2. A code word. A word or emoji they can send that means “call me and give me a reason to leave” without losing face in front of friends.
3. What to do if someone is unwell. Stay with them, don’t leave them alone or asleep on their back, call 000 and tell the operator what was taken. Make clear you’d rather they call an ambulance and face any consequence than not call.

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Signs worth paying attention to

There is no checklist that reliably identifies drug use, and almost every “warning sign” overlaps with ordinary adolescence, mental ill-health, bullying, or sheer exhaustion. Treat changes as a reason to ask, not to accuse.

Patterns worth noticing include a marked and sustained change in mood or motivation; a sudden, complete change in friendship group with secrecy about it; unexplained or missing money; declining school engagement; dropping activities they used to love; changes in sleep or appetite; or unfamiliar items and smells.

The important word is change — persistent, out-of-character, and clustered.

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If you discover your child has used drugs

Pause before reacting. A conversation that starts in anger usually ends permanently. If you need an hour, take an hour.

Find out what actually happened. Once? At a party? Regularly? Alone? With whom? What were they trying to get from it — fun, fitting in, escape from anxiety, sleep, focus? The reason matters more than the substance.

Separate the safety issue from the discipline issue. Deal with immediate safety first.

Respond, don’t retaliate. Consequences should be proportionate, explained, and time-limited. Blanket punishment that removes all social contact often increases secrecy and isolation.

Keep the relationship. The evidence is unambiguous that connection is protective. You can be deeply unhappy about the behaviour and still be visibly on their side.

Get help early if it’s more than experimentation. Regular use, use to cope with feelings, use that’s affecting school, sleep, money or relationships, or any use of highly potent substances warrants a call to a professional. Start with your GP, the school wellbeing team, or one of the services listed below. Seeking help early is not an admission of failure as a parent — it’s the single most useful thing you can do.

Look after yourself too. Family drug support services exist specifically for parents and carers, and using them is not disloyalty to your child.

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Where to get help in Australia

In an emergency, call 000. Ambulance officers are there to provide medical care.

Service	Contact	Who it’s for
National Alcohol and Other Drug Hotline	1800 250 015 (24/7; SA 8.30am–10pm)	Anyone concerned about their own or someone else’s use; connects to your state service
DirectLine (VIC)	1800 888 236 (24/7) — directline.org.au	Free, confidential counselling, information and referral
Youth Drug and Alcohol Advice — YoDAA (VIC)	1800 458 685	Advice about services specifically for young people
Family Drug Help / Family Drug and Gambling Help (VIC, SA, TAS)	1300 660 068 (24/7)	Support for family members and carers
Family Drug Support (NSW, ACT, NT, QLD)	1300 368 186 (24/7) — fds.org.au	Support for families affected by someone’s drug use
Parent and Family Drug Support Line (WA)	1800 653 203 (24/7)	Support for parents and families
Kids Helpline	1800 55 1800 (24/7) — kidshelpline.com.au	Free counselling for young people aged 5–25
Lifeline	13 11 14 (24/7) — lifeline.org.au	Crisis support for anyone
13YARN	13 92 76 (24/7)	Crisis support for Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander people
Beyond Blue	1300 224 636	Mental health support
Counselling Online	counsellingonline.org.au	Free 24/7 online alcohol and drug counselling
Path2Help (Alcohol and Drug Foundation)	adf.org.au	Search by postcode for services near you

Trusted information for parents

• Positive Choices — positivechoices.org.au — evidence-based drug education for parents, teachers and young people, with a dedicated parents’ section, fact sheets and webinars.
• Alcohol and Drug Foundation — adf.org.au — plain-language drug facts, the Drug Wheel, and support services.
• Better Health Channel (Victoria) — betterhealth.vic.gov.au — including its guide to talking to children about drugs.
• Australian Institute of Health and Welfare — aihw.gov.au — the national data behind the figures in this article.

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In short

• Start earlier than feels necessary, and talk often rather than once.
• Be accurate. Never exaggerate — your credibility is the asset you’re protecting.
• Ask questions before making statements.
• State your expectations clearly, once, without a lecture.
• Know where they are and who they’re with, through warmth rather than surveillance.
• Agree a rescue plan and a code word before you need them.
• If something goes wrong, deal with safety first and the relationship second — everything else can wait.

The goal isn’t a perfect conversation. It’s a child who, at the moment it counts, decides to pick up the phone and call you.

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References and further reading

1. Australian Institute of Health and Welfare (2025). National Drug Strategy Household Survey 2022–2023. aihw.gov.au
2. Australian Institute of Health and Welfare. Young people’s use of alcohol, tobacco, e-cigarettes and other drugs. aihw.gov.au
3. NSW Department of Education. Principles of drug education (school booklet). education.nsw.gov.au
4. Australian Government (2004). Principles for School Drug Education.
5. Teesson, M. et al. Evaluation of Positive Choices, a national initiative to disseminate evidence-based alcohol and other drug prevention strategies. Journal of Medical Internet Research.
6. Newton, N. & Champion, K. Commentary on school-based drug prevention and fear-based programs, National Drug and Alcohol Research Centre (NDARC), UNSW.
7. Kendler, K.S. et al. Parental knowledge/monitoring and adolescent substance use: a causal relationship? Psychological Medicine.
8. Positive Choices. Parents: how do I talk to my child about alcohol and other drugs? positivechoices.org.au/parents
9. Better Health Channel (Victoria). Talking to kids about drugs. betterhealth.vic.gov.au

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